How we hold the room.
- 01
What is shared here, stays here.
Confidentiality is the first agreement. Specific stories, names, and details do not leave the room — not to a partner, not to a podcast, not to a group chat. Talking about your own experience of the Circle outside is fine. Talking about anyone else's is not.
- 02
Speak from your own experience.
Use 'I' more than 'you'. Tell us what was true for you, not what should be true for the woman across the room. The Circle is built on first-person honesty, not advice.
- 03
Don't try to fix.
When someone shares something hard, the instinct is to make it better — to recommend a book, a therapist, a reframe. Resist it. The more powerful gift is to let her know she has been heard. Fixing, here, often functions as a way to leave the room.
- 04
Lean toward kindness when in doubt.
If you cannot tell how something will land, choose the softer version. Tone does not always survive the trip to the screen.
- 05
No selling, recruiting, or pitching.
The Circle is not a market. Do not use it to promote a business, a program, a class, or a cause — even a beloved one. If you have something to share that would genuinely serve another member, send it privately.
- 06
Honor your own pace.
You do not owe the Circle a response. Reading without replying is a complete way to be here. Coming and going is allowed. Disappearing for a season is allowed. The door stays open.
- 07
When something feels off, tell us.
If a conversation crosses a line, if a member's behavior worries you, if you are unsure whether to stay — write to Brandy directly. She reads everything. She would rather hear from you than not.
We hold the room the way we would want to be held in it.